결혼 10주년을 축하하고 있는 미국인 부부들에게 둘이 어떻게 만나게 되었느냐고 물으면 아마 직장에서, 혹은 학교에서 만났다거나 “친구들 소개로 만났다”는 답을 듣게 될 것이다. 결혼한지 2년 안팍 밖에 안 된 미국인 부부들에게 같은 질문을 던지면 아주 딴판인 대답을 받을지 모른다.
Ask an American couple celebrating their 10th anniversary how they met and they
are likely to say, through work, at school, or "we were introduced by friends." Ask an
American couple who have been married only a couple of years the same question
and you may get a very different answer.
2006년과 2007년에 결혼한 사람들 만명을 대상으로 최근에 한 조사에 따르면, 19% 이상이 온라인으로 만난 것으로 나타났으며, 이것은 친구들 소개 등 다른 여러가지 소개 유형들보다 높은 비율이다.
According to a recent survey of 10,000 people who married in 2006 and 2007, more
than 19 percent met online, more than were introduced by friends or any other type
맷 브롬랜드와 헬런 매클루어는 2007년 9월에 결혼했다. 그들은 2005년 2월 온라인으로 “소개받았다.” 브롬랜드는 처음 접촉해서 잠시 시간을 보내는 동안에 내가 그녀에 대해 알게 된 것은 식품점에서 누구를 만나게 되었을 경우라든가 집안의 아주머지의 알선으로 누구를 만나게 되었을 경우에 상대편에 대해 아는 것과는 비교가 안 될 정도로 더 많았다”고 말하고 있다.
Matt Bromeland and Helen McClure were married in September, 2007. They
were "introduced" online in February, 2005. "I knew more about her in the first few
moments than you would ever know about somebody you just met in the grocery
store or somebody your aunt matches you up with," says Bromeland.
몇 주일 후에 둘이 만나서 자리를 같이 하게 되었을 때 “나는 우리가 만나면 코피를 마시며 30분이나 45분 동안 이야기할 것으로 예상했었다”고 그는 말한다. “우리는 네 시간이나 담소했다. 참말로 긴 코피 대화였다”고 매클루어는 회상했다.
When they actually saw each other, several weeks later… "I thought we'd get
together and have coffee for 30 minutes or 45 minutes," he says. "We talked for four
hours. It was a very long coffee," McClure recalls.
She says her parents were a little concerned before she met Bromeland. "Because
they had heard so much about how online can be so dangerous. We made sure
we met in a public place."
Like a growing number of newlyweds who met online, they say more traditional
ways of meeting potential mates weren't working for them.
"Even as outgoing and gregarious as I am," Bromeland says, "I was never
comfortable with trying to go up to some stranger and try to charm them."
"I wasn't being very successful in meeting people through friends," McClure says. "I
felt like I needed guidance as to who might be a good match for me."
Claire Schuster says she went online to meet people she never would have gotten
to know otherwise.
"It was amazing how many people you could meet. You could be matched with 25
people in one day," she says. "It was a larger pool than I had ever experienced
She was matched with Haroot Hakopian, a school teacher and soccer coach, in
November 2004. He says his busy schedule made it difficult for him to meet people
any other way.
"I would be at school at 6:30. I would coach from 3 to 5. I would work out from 5 to 6
Hakopian and Schuster married less than a year after they were matched online.
There are many online dating sites. Some target specific religious or ethnic groups.
Some are free, others charge for their services. Some are like personal ads;
anyone can post a profile. Others use personality profiles to match members.
Like Bromeland and McClure, Hakopian and Schuster used eHarmony, which
charges a membership fee and requires members to complete a 250-question
survey. Hakopian says when he read the personality profile based on the survey, "I
was extremely surprised at how accurate it was."
Months later, when they were already engaged, Hakopian and Schuster compared
their profiles. He says they fit together like puzzle pieces. "We weren't similar in a lot
of areas. We figured out that eHarmony had matched us on complementary
personality traits, as opposed to similar personality traits."
"In a way eHarmony knew something we didn't," Schuster says, "because I was
looking for someone who was more like me. I wouldn't have thought to look for my
puzzle piece for my perfect partner."
Others are also looking for love online. Both eHarmony and Match.com - another
popular dating site - report membership has increased in recent months, despite